Don’t Get Dates. Get the Right Dates.
There are more singles and dating sites than ever now, so why has it become so much more difficult to find the right match? Should it not have become easier? Of course it should have, and in many ways it has. The problem is with the way we approach these sites. Here are a few suggestions for improving your chances of finding the right partner.
One of the most obvious things to keep in mind is selectivity. Even if you are naturally picky, you should take it one step further and become even pickier. There are plenty of folks out there but, almost equally relevant, there are plenty of sites out there that offer free trial periods. Take advantage of these free trial periods and use them to your advantage. Write down as many potential matches as possible who might meet or exceed your high standards. But don’t contact anyone just yet. Just write your list, make it as long as possible before the trial period ends.
With a respectable list of candidates, see how many you can contact prior to the expiry of your free trial. In many cases, you will have to register for paid service before you can contact anyone. If this is the case and you are confident in your short-list, sign up for the shortest plan available (of course, if your aim is to keep meeting people and hooking up for short-term relationships, then it makes more sense to sign up for the cheapest plan, which is usually the longest-term plan). At this point, you should contact all of your candidates and do your best to discuss how their interests align with your own. Try your best to not sound desperate or cheesy; just be yourself.
The other strategy also involves taking advantage of the free trial period but involves posting a photograph and a great personal ad and letting them come to you. Since a lot of sites allow you to post your profile for free, you can sit and wait until a good backlog of courters have filled your inbox. And only then should you opt to pull our your credit card to sign up for a paid membership. The key here is to attract as many qualified matches as possible.
So how do you write effect ad copy for your personal listing? That’s right, “ad copy.” After all, you are promoting the most important product your world has to offer - you! So you should treat your personal ad as if you were promoting a product, a very special product. This means stepping outside the box and trying as hard as you can to not emulate the thousands of other personal ads out there. Make yours stand out from the others by incorporating high energy, humor (if possible), and profile photographs.
Whatever approach you chose tactic you choose, remember to be honest in all of your correspondence. This will not save you problems down the road, but will attract the right type of match, the one who will appreciate your true personality.
