We will begin with a question.
Have you ever met a girl you liked, and despite your best efforts, you got stuck in the “lets just be friends” category?
Do you ever wonder why this happens?
Chances are it was because you did not know how to flirt properly with the woman.
You should know that flirting is essential in the attraction process. If you do not do it at all or do it wrong, you may blow your chances with a woman.
What is the importance of flirting?
The answer is simple: Flirting is the process by which sexual tension is created!
When there is no sexual tension within your interactions, there will be no attraction. When you do not have attraction, this places you in a different category.
You guessed it - A FRIEND!
So when you know the proper way to flirt with a girl, your chances of attracting her go up exponentially.
Flirting is no big secret as many might consider, flirting is a lot of fun. Flirting does not work only if it is not done properly.
The art of flirting with women is all about communicating your romantic interest in the woman rather than just letting the cat out of the bag.
This is called “mixed signals.”
Your actions are communicating one thing, but your words are saying something completely different.
Here are some common mistakes most guys make when flirting with girls:
MISTAKE #1: Being Too Obvious
Many men are caught up in the excitement of being attracted to a woman, and then they say exactly what they feel. They do not realize that this type of information presentation forces the woman to decide how she may feel about him.
Keep in mind, by not laying the groundwork properly beforehand, you risk the chance of finding rejection from the woman.
MISTAKE #2: Not Being Obvious Enough!
On the flip side of that coin are the guys who communicate NO INTEREST AT ALL, yet in their minds they think that the girl should know how they are feeling. Then, when they make their move, the girl is surprised because up to this point, she had no idea the guy was interested in her!
MISTAKE #3: They Rely On Words Instead Of Actions
Flirting has a good deal to do with the words you use; however, non-verbal body language is a more powerful method. These are those little things such as, tilting your head, raising an eyebrow or casting a wicked little smile, since they give new meaning to otherwise innocent remarks.
MISTAKE #4: They Take Things Too Seriously
Flirting is fun and light when done properly. When men begin adding serious romantic gestures with flirting, the sexual tension begins to break down.
When you or the woman is not enjoying the flirting, something is wrong.
Although, there are other mistakes, these few should give you some ideas. Would you like to learn the proper way to begin flirting?
Use as much innuendo as you can while you are flirting, however the secret is in keeping it subtle.
So for instance, if you’re at a bar, and the girl you’re with orders a drink and then turns to you and asks if you’d like something, you could jokingly say - “You’re not trying to get me drunk so you can take advantage of me, are you?” (Of course, this is said with a wink and a nod.)
This lets her know you are interested without saying it outright. Flirting is implication and it is fun and lighthearted.
Another example may be, when a woman makes a sexy remark, you say to her, Stop trying to tempt me, you vixen, you know I never kiss a woman on the first date.
Do you understand how all this works?
Then, as you begin to flirt more and more, you can start getting a little more obvious about your interests, while never really crossing that line.
As you do this, you’ll begin to notice how the attraction between you and the girl starts to build and build. And before you know it, that harmless flirting becomes an outright SEDUCTION.
The real fun begins at this point.
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